How do you please everybody at christmas?

Now that I am married, it is harder to please every side of the families because my parents wanted to spend christmas eve together but my wife's parents are also planning something. How do we fix this?How do you please everybody at christmas?Since both sides want to celebrate on the same days/evenings you have two choices: 1) divide your time between them or 2) Tell your families that you will alternate each year between them %26amp; start keeping track. I have a sister who spends every other Xmas with us. Another sister is luckier; her husband's family always gets together on Xmas eve %26amp; our family on Xmas so they never have to make a choice.



ps: The sister who spends every other Xmas with us does the same for Thanksgiving. The year she does Thanksgiving with us, she does Xmas with them and vice-versa so that they spend one major holiday each year with both families.How do you please everybody at christmas?
Remind everyone it is a season of love, joy, family and friends.

It is about giving to others, not selfish what did you get me!!

Remember the main reason for the season!!!

Smile, relax and have a Merry Christmas!!!How do you please everybody at christmas?After about 2 years of fighting about this - we started having Christmas at my house!! They want to see us, they know where they can find us. They don't have to get out and drive here and there. That got old for me real quick. We even started having Thanksgiving at home 2 years ago, too.How do you please everybody at christmas?
This is why I'm thankful that my in-laws live in Michigan. We switch off Thanksgiving and Christmas every year and it works really well for us.



It's really a matter of sitting down and compromising. You can spend Christmas day at one place and Christmas eve at another, or you can have everyone at your place! But it is something that requires discussion and compromise, maybe you could switch off every year Christmas eve %26amp; Christmas.How do you please everybody at christmas?You can't please everyone. Someone's just gonna have to give a little. My family has had Christmas on the 24th for 50 years, so when I got married, my husband understood this, ans his family started having theirs on Christmas Day. Sure, some people won't be so understanding, but you have to do what you think is right.

Merry Christmas!
Just make an arrangement that one year you spend Christmas Eve with one side of the family and Christmas Day, that is if they live fairly close together, with the other family, then just reverse it the following year, that seems fairly simple and fair to all sides.How do you please everybody at christmas?
one on Christmas eve and the other Christmas day



i have to go to 2 different houses Christmas eve, and on Christmas day we open gifts at my house and then go to another relatives house after that
I have dealt with this fo 20 years...we have one side that agreed to have their get together Christmas Eve...the other side agreed to do it the weekend before that.(This side has grown children that come in from other states for the weekend) I insist on bing home Christmas Day with my husband and children.



both your families have to realize you have your own family now, and if they want to have a celebration with you and yours, they should ask you WHEN a good time would be for you. If they insist on their own time, do one family thing this year and next year do the other. you can never please everyone.How do you please everybody at christmas?
I learned a long time ago that you can't please everyone. At least concerning my family and his family. Then add children in the mix and it became a horrible feud of what house we were going to on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. Nothing ever satisfied either family.



My only advice is to plan for next year. Like previous answers....go to one family's house on Christmas Eve and the other on Christmas Day. Tell those families in advance what day you are planning on being there.



Try not to stress over it. If neither family is willing to compromise....spend it alone with your wife as your own little family.



Merry Christmas!
Maybe you can spend the first half of the evening with one side of the family and then the other half of the evening with the other side. When you're married, this can be difficult. We split the time up between both sides of our family. Both of your family's are going to have to understand that there's now two families to see. You'd be surprised at how much they will understand. Maybe you can divide it up to go to one side of the family on Christmas eve and the other side on Christmas day.
This is very hard and my hubby and I are lucky because our families are willing to compromise with each other. We spend Christmas Eve with hubby's side and Christmas Day with mine. It works out nicely. I would suggest you both sit down with your families and talk it out and see if maybe one year go to one side on Christmas Eve and then switch the next year. If families aren't willing to compromise then they are not taking your feelings into consideration or remembering to be grateful for what they have and remembering the true meaning of Christmas. If it comes to it you both may have to prove a point by not going to either on that day if they are unwilling to compromise. It is as simple as that. You can't be in 2 places at once and you should be allowed to enjoy your holiday. Trust me if both sides have to go without seeing you then they will rethink it next year. Merry Christmas and remember you can only please yourselves!!!!
It can be a scheduling nightmare. We have ex's and children from those ex's so our nightmare gets even worse. Switching years works if families are cooperative. I guess every family should understand that as their children get married that they will have to share them with another family and get ready to be cooperative. I believe as long as no one is getting left out every year there shouldn't be problems. Good luck to you.